Let’s be real…when you’re constantly around friends that are in relationships, especially long-lasting ones, it can be difficult to not be envious. But over time, I’ve realized that I’m okay with being alone. I live by myself and I feel that my independence has really helped me come into my own person. Things happen when they’re supposed to happen, not when you plan for it. You also have to know when to walk away when something doesn’t feel right.
I’m happy to share with you my five reasons for why I’m 100% happy with being single.
I’m tired of the game
BS and disappointment. It’s a vicious cycle. I went on a date where the guy didn’t buy my $4 Blue Moon. I was seeing a guy that brought me around his friends and was publicly affectionate with me, but said we were “just having fun” when I asked what we were doing. In college, I was talking to someone who would pursue deep conversations about our future, but couldn’t find the time to see me once over the course of weeks. It goes on and on. Buh-bye.
I’m more confident in who I am and feel happy being alone
It took a long journey for me to feel this way. I used to think that I needed someone to make me happy, but I’ve learned to love myself and accept that I can be single and happy. I have a newfound independence and I feel good knowing that I don’t need to depend on anyone else.
I’m too selfish to give my time to someone who doesn’t deserve it
As a young professional, I am not only involved with my full time job, but also a leadership board, volunteering and working on my blog. I’m focused on myself and any free time I have, I want to spend it with friends or have down time for myself. I don’t half-commit to relationships, so if you’re going to take up my time, you better damn well be worth it.
Dating is exhausting
All the nerves and anxiety that go into meeting someone new sucks the life out of me. Call it some form of social anxiety or what not, but it’s hard going through it over and over again.
I’m not in any rush to settle down
Just like any other girl, I have an imaginary timeline in my head for when I’d like to get married and have kids. But that’s just what it is – imaginary. Right now, I’m just…living in the moment.
What are your thoughts on dating in your 20’s? Do you find it as difficult and exhausting as I do?
Author: Lauren Taylar
Lauren Taylar is a digital marketer and blogger. She is a graduate of the State University of New York at Oswego, where she earned her bachelor’s degree in public relations. When she’s not volunteering her time with Make-A-Wish, you can find her reading a travel magazine and sipping a glass of hard cider or wine.